Our time now online dating
Spending a couple of hours with someone who was unattractive and unappealing was not too much of a price to pay for the chance to have met someone who might be attractive and appealing.It was also possible, sometimes, to do something that was entertaining, even with someone who was unattractive and unappealing.The second problem in responding to these advertisements was that some people thought doing so implied that they were desperate.(See my reaction reported above.) No one wants to seem desperate.
It turned out the men they were introduced to this way were no more or less dangerous than men encountered for the first time in a bar, or even men whom they met through the recommendation of a friend. (A somewhat older, recently divorced, woman told me she was sitting with her date at a fancy restaurant when he took out his teeth and put them in a wine glass.)Being pro-active, as I usually am, I encouraged men and women, too, to try dating this way, although, certainly, only after taking reasonable precautions.In another time and place, matchmakers would have been called upon to make the necessary arrangements; but no such social institution existed here in this country.There was need for an organized way for young couples to meet for the first time. Way, way back in frontier days, men in the wilderness advertised in Eastern newspapers for a bride.They were afraid they would be rejected out of hand, or made fun of.And they, too, were afraid of being trapped into being with someone who was undesirable.