Most intimidating people of all time
Lesson learned: Whenever you’re around someone who intimidates you, think: “Now I’m intimidated, and that’s OK.” Then you can move forward to face (and conquer) your fears instead of fighting your own feelings.Now that we’re aware of this feeling and accept it, we’re ready for the next step.I’m also going to bring up examples from intimidating people I’ve talked to about the subject, and I’ll share what I’ve learned from them.First of all, here are two changes in mindset we need to understand: Few walk around in life trying to intimidate others.Some examples that came up was talking to your boss or manager, talk to tall people, good looking people, mean/unpleasant people, and those you’re attracted to.The number one example men brought up was talking to women they’re attracted to. The advice is collected from studies in the field of cognitive behavioral science and my own experience.She doesn’t use it as a tool to suppress others (even though that’s how others often take it).As I’ve gotten to know her better she’s opened up about having a low self-esteem.
They protect themselves below their perfect surface – and the price they pay is becoming less approachable (and that means less high-quality relationships).This insight helps us to not take their intimidation personally and b) it helps us understand that their “perfect surface” more often than not is a protection for their low self-esteem. It can be stressful to be around intimidating people and feel that being inferior will make them dislike us.“Here everyone has a fancy Ph D title and I’m just a retail employee” or “Here everyone’s tall and I’m short.”As I’ve written about before, it’s a losing game to try to make people like us.The intimidation of Tiger Woods is not necessarily the same sort that Hale Irwin used to have.What if you become intimidated by individuals or groups who are attractive and/or loud.