Emotions and dating
What does that mean for your compatibility in the future?Those are useful and revealing questions, and it’s important that you answer them for yourself soberly.You may conclude that your partner’s past does not actually have a hell of a lot of bearing on who they are now or who they will likely be in 10 years.People can change for the better, and kids do stupid things.You’re being assaulted by a swarm of horrible feelings, and I know they all feel jumbled together, but it’s important to pull them apart and give them names.
How could they just throw away their virginity like it was nothing? They just threw their body away and never thought twice.
But by seeing their choices for what they are (differences between you and them), you can use the knowledge to adjust your understanding of your partner. Where did their choices come from (psychologically)? Were their decisions a fluke of youth, or a part of their current character?
How has their sexual past shaped their attitudes today?
And now all of a sudden, it’s like you can’t stop thinking about it and torturing yourself with mental pictures.
This has gone from a minor annoyance to a major and central problem in your relationship.